Parenting with strength: Why your well-being counts in NYC

By Mayra Rosendo

Family Advocate, VNS Health 

Bronx Voice 

September 8, 2025

BRONX - One of the great joys of being a parent is watching your child grow, learn, and find their place in the world. It all happens so fast. From taking pictures on their first day of pre-school to hearing them read aloud for the first time, every moment is fleeting—and precious.

But with growth can come new challenges, including those affecting mental well-being. This situation is surprisingly common, with 15% of NYC kids reporting at least one mental health diagnosis. School, peers, social media, and broader influences like poverty, discrimination, and community violence can all play a role.

As I’ve experienced with my own children, parents often put their child’s needs first—frequently ahead of their own. When a child shows changes in behavior or receives a diagnosis, the sense of responsibility can feel overwhelming for parents.

My own first response was to find help and do whatever it took to get have access to that help. But associated worries and energy depletion quickly took a toll. I couldn’t avoid it anymore—parental self-care was essential. Some parents fear being seen by their children (and other parents) as “weak” if they show that they themselves need help. But I learned that asking for support is not only important, it’s a sign of strength.

That journey inspired me to help others, which is why I’m now a Family Advocate with the Promise Zone program at VNS Health. Currently based in nine schools in the Bronx, we provide holistic crisis support for children and adolescents with emotional and/or behavioral needs. We take a whole-family approach to helping children with our team, bringing together social workers, behavioral health specialists, and family advocates to help children and their families thrive.

Our team focuses on listening to and getting children the care they need, while also supporting families. There’s truth in the saying, “Take care of yourself, so you can take care of others.”

Here are three 3 simple self-care steps to consider for your own well-being:

Find pockets of time for yourself: Time for things you enjoy can feel impossible when juggling work, school, and household duties. But even small moments—like a set lunch break or a walk with a friend—can make a big difference. Taking time for yourself isn’t selfish; it builds resilience. As parents, with everything on your plate, it’s easy to feel like you’re always running behind. Sometimes just slowing down the pace of your day, even a little can help make room for clearer thinking.

Staying grounded: One activity we encourage parents to try is creating a personal “self-care kit.” One great approach is to gather things that activate your five senses, to help ground yourself, reduce stress, or ease anxiety. These might include a small to-go treat, a favorite photo of your family, a soft pair of slippers—these are simple ways to remind yourself to focus on the positive. When we lower the initial anxiety we feel in stressful situations, it is easier to focus on what both you and your child need.

Remember, we’re all in this together: Many families worry about stigma and hesitate to share what they’re going through, but isolation can increase stress. Parent support groups offer safe, judgment-free spaces to connect. Whether you listen or share, knowing you’re not alone builds strength.

You can find local groups through your child’s school parent coordinator, borough Family Resource Centers (FRCs), and community organizations like BronxWorks or Rising Ground. Try searching online for “parent support Bronx NY” with your specific need (e.g., “Autism,” “Expecting mothers”), or  Check sites like:PsychologyToday.com under “Groups.” Another great place to start when seeking help is calling NYC 988 and asking for parent support groups in the Bronx.

Parenting a child who is experiencing behavioral or mental health challenges can be tough. But with the right tools and support, it can also be a path to growth and resilience—for both you and your child. And while the parenting path will certainly have its twists and turns, there are resources and knowledgeable guides who can guide you on the journey.

For more information about behavioral health services for children and families, visit: https://www.vnshealth.org/behavioral-health/ or call 718 742-7100.